ah girl! my mom is a great woman, I love her to pieces, but she always told me I would 'look better' if I lost 10lbs. always 10lbs. finally when I hit 30 I think I said to her that I heard that enough in my life and that I look fine as I am now! She had NO idea how often she said it and how much it dug deep into me. She also told me when I was younger that I woudn't amount to much either. I, am now, a single home-owner with a great job and in college to finish my degree. Everytime my mom hears me talk she is SHOCKED at the WOMAN I have become in contrast to the KID I was. You mom needs to see you as an adult. You need to tell her flat out what she says and how it makes you feel. Sometimes our parents think we are impervious to their insults, that we don't listen to them, but they don't realize we generally hear their words more loudly than anyone elses, even if we act like we didnt. (((HUGS)))
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