[journey826]

I am so sorry you are going through this with your family.
one thought comes to mind (the squeaky wheel always gets the oil) and it seems your sister has mastered that need.
I will say think very hard before you do or say anything out of anger.

I know first hand how this goes as I separated myself from my family for similar reasons.I have totally cut myself and kids off from them.
Now the kids are older and they blame me for not having a big family or knowing them .It hurts me and I miss them but I felt it was the BEST for my children and myself.

You cannot change them wanting to baby her,as long as you do not become an enabler, refuse to listen to your moms rants about it,they will learn to respect you through your strength.I know that you just want to be treated fair but sometimes things are just they way they are.when we can accept people as they are we stop being disappointed by what they are not.