I am so sorry you have to go through this; your husband might be one of those men who would rather suffer an illness themselves than watch a love one go through it. He is probably very afraid also, and men don't handle fear well, after all, they are taught never to be afraid. The first 6 months of a puppy's life can be very trying and the potty training issues bother some people more than others. He may be overwhelmed right now, but one of the most important things in beating cancer is a positive outlook, and perhaps a new puppy could be a "reward" for recovering from cancer. Personally, if I had cancer, I wouldn't worry about seeming selfish, and psychologists say a little selfishness is very healthy, you never want to be selfless. My prayers are with you. |