You make a lot of very valid points Marlee! I too was a fan of Jason...but I had a feeling that her selecting someone that would create a ready made family for her would be a bit much.
The show really does not provide US as viewers with a very HONEST picture of these guys...with all the editing they do...they make some guys look perfect and some not so perfect for the full effect of getting the audience tuned in....
After watching the "After the Final Rose" show I really changed my opinion of the whole thing.
In the end it is Deanna life, and the show was for HER to fall in love and if that is what happened...we should just be happy for her...no matter who she picked.