Not sure what the answer might be. Sounds liek a control issue. You need to show her she is not in charge. YOU ARE, of everything including food and toys. I would suggest having seperate dishes for them, even though you do free feed. Also make her listen your command of "sit" before she gets her food. Then still don't let her have it until YOU say for her to. Oh ya, your free feeding, sorry, lol! I forgot

I know with my 2, from the time they were first brought home, I would reach into their dishes while eating and rustle the food around. Just to let them know that I AM IN CONTROL of the food, not them. I don't have any suggestions about the toy issue though, sorry

I'm sure someone will pop in and help though