Divorce shouldn't be decided in one day, anymore than marriage should. Sometimes divorce is the answer, but you must really feel like you have tried every alternative before considering divorce. So many people divorce, never learning what went wrong in the first place, and trade one set of problems for another. Obviously, both you and your husband are unhappy, but this could be one of the "rough times" that every marriage goes through. Find a good therapist, they are much cheaper than divorce lawyers, and look at this as a positive step in helping build a real relationship. The only difference between those couples that are celebrating there 50th anniversary and those that divorced, is one member of the marriage felt like the marriage was worth saving and worked through those rough times. Best wishes. |