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Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom  I completely understand where you're coming from - it can feel like a lot of pressure when the other family really "loves you FOR him" (as well as him loving you). I mean, it's completely lovely - of course - but overwhelming for some of us too.
Whenever we'd go on weekends w/ the fam - we'd just always talk ahead of time about how we were going to get bits of time alone together too (walks, boat rides, whatever) - just to decompress a little from all of the togetherness. It helps.
But yeah, it's hard sometimes to take the big leap - until suddenly you just "know" - then there is nothing hard about it at all, and it's all easy.  |
I feel like I "know' he is it. He is the one and its going to happen... and maybe thats what makes me panicked... sometimes I feel that Im still too young (at heart at this point.. Im 31) to get married and settled down. ya know? So sometimes I panic a bit at the thought of losing my independance even just a tiny bit. Although today I had it out with him a little bit, I feel that we are perfectly independant capable people, him & I. I am going away this weekend with some girlfriends. He is ok with it, but clearly bummed out. I am not happy about it. I shouldn't have to feel GUILTY because Im going away for a night. So he is stessing himself out bc he wants to see me as early as possible on sunday but his ex-wife is giving him crap about getting the kids. I try to make things easy bc I dont have kids or an ex that I need to keep contact with. I dont see my dad but I am going to see my grandfather on sunday, well my guy can't make it due to scheduling conflicts with his kids and family and hes now MORE upset that he cant see me tonight, saturday and now not until late on sunday. I dont want to hear it because it scares me to think hes become dependant on my company enough that he gets upset with 2 days apart. That, to me, is not healthy.
blah blah blah.. maybe its just me! Maybe Im TOO independant. My mom thinks I'll never get married because Im too independant. lol