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Originally Posted by celstu1  Im just not used to the 'tight' family thing. My 2 brothers live far away and my mom lives far away and my father & I haven't spoken in 6 months.  I envy my guys tight family.
This is horrible, and I'll never tell him this, but I wish he knew that Im doing this FOR HIM. Sometimes I feel that he is more thoughtful with the little things than I am... and I feel bad about that. |
Okay, NOW I get it - and I was wondering if there was a little more to it. And actually, I *really* get this bc my family was...not a good one. In fact - the word "family" just freaked the crap out of me for a long time. I didn't want anything to do w/ anyone's family. Met hubby (then boyfriend) and he was pretty close to his family - which felt scary for me. They are very welcoming and loving people - but it still took me awhile to realize fully, in my own skin, that they were *not* going to behave like my family. My point is, when your core family is filled w/ dysfunction - it truly can be tough to propel yourself into other families. AND, there is nothing wrong w/ sharing that w/ your bf - I certainly did w/ Tony, and he was happy to share it with me. It helps to share that kind of stuff. Also, if it's important for you to have bits of time alone w/ him during the family weekend - it's good to let him know that ahead of time too. We always planned for that too, just so I'd have some breathing room.
