Please don't take this as being mean or ugly because I agree with you 100%. I for one don't like "gifts" with expectations attached....being aware you don't want your family upset is understandable but it appears they are not considering Abbey's well being or your feelings. Have they even thought of your feelings if the worst scenario happened and you lost Abbey during this process, not to mention the pups? There are many very knowledgable breeders on YT and had it not been for their experience and expertice several of them could have had tragic outcomes.
Personally I would get a some documentation from the vet noting his opinion that she is too small and shouldn't be bred. As stated in another post she is your love and responsibility and no one should try to push you into doing something you aren't comfortable with. If I had to I'd get her spayed on a payment plan....this is totally unfair to both of you.
