[Duncansmom]

*SIGH* I have been watching this post to see all the good advice. It is MO that you never really know what its like until you live it. I will try to make this brief......
My son who is now 19, was a very very difficult little boy. I had nothing but trouble with him since the day he turned 6 mos. Everyone told me BOYS WILL BE BOYS, but I could tell it was something entirely different. He ran at 7 mos old, never crawled just pulled himself up on the table and then ran. He never talked until he was almost 3. He was forever getting into things and at 2 he leaned how to open the front door and would let himself out at 3AM to go play! I had chains and alarms and he still figured it out. He would have fits of rage, pure RAGE and it got to the point we had to take everything out of his room except his mattress and pillow. he would take solid oak chairs and throw them across the room and on and on......
I took him to so many doctors and therapists....nothing helped. He was diagnosed with tons of diff lables.....none were correct. And these were the best doctors in the state! I was considering having to send him away (still breaks my heart today) b/c I just didnt know what to do. he was harming his sister, attacking me and destroying our house. I admit that he almost BROKE me, BUT.....I saw an article that a ped wrote in FL. He wasnt too far away from us so I made an appt w him. he was a ped neuerologist. I took my son to the appt. and as soon as I saw the Dr. I burst into tears and sobbed for 20 mins. He understood. he hugged me and told me they could help my son.
In the end...my son had a very rare form of childhood epilepsy. his brain would seize every 2-12 seconds. Not a familiar seizure, a behavioral seizure with extreme adrnaline rushes that gave him adult strength! He was put on meds...had his blood checked every month and has been seizure free since he was 12. Altho he is still a brat! But I cant tell you how hard it was. now Im not saying this is your sons problems, what I am saying is i think you need to look for every possible reason as to why hes having these issues. I did send my son to camp for 2 weeks every summer and he loved it! even tho the money was tight, I knew it was something he needed. But there are many ways to keep him busy and focused you just have to be creative and persistant until you find HIS niche. Karate never worked for my son either. But I would make an appt w/ his DR. and get all the tests done just to be safe....then keep his lil butt busy with so much stuff he will fall into bed at night and sleep like a baby. Just like bored dogs who get into trouble, they need jobs. Sounds like he could use a job too! LOL you are not a bad mom...I thought I was the worst mom ever....but it wasnt me. Hang in there. Im always around if you need support. it does get better eventually!

Sorry its so long but I really wanted you to know that yo are not alone.