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Originally Posted by chloeandj  how about taking a parenting class? or talking with a councelor? Also you may want to go to the pediatrician and get a complete physical with bloodwork. He may have something going on medically. (this was my husband's case when he was a child) Sounds like something is going on to make his behavior change like that. It could be that he needs some help with coping with a little brother. My kids are 6 and 9. Playing with fire at 8 is more than a bit scary and the lighters should be completely out of his reach (and anything else that is dangerous). Maybe I put too many fears in their head but they also would never go outside without me watching them, they know that crazy people like to steal children, be sure to have a serious talk with him about that. Spanking is out for me too, i take away their very favorite thing if they don't listen and i never give in. |
Yes i have taken him to a counsler before but he wouldn't talk to him so we couldn't accomplish much. The counsler told me to just keep working with him. I honestly think it's just him acting out because he just had a birthday and as soon as you give him an inch he takes a mile. My mom has spoiled him a lot he is the Favorite grandson and i am trying to reverse some of the ego that has come with it. In her eyes he can do no wrong and i think this has added to the problem
The lighter insident was 1 time it happened last week he snuck the lighter while i was cleaning up the dinner mess. I allow them in my back yard periodically with the door open to play by them selves, However they are not left unatennded i don't leave or walk away. It is only allowed because we have a full fenced in yard and pad locks on the gate. There is nothing they can get into back there. He was out there 5 min i caught him right away he had a stick in hand trying to light it. I immediatly grabbed it talked to both of them and then grounded Him to his room.
I too fear a lot and so they know about stranger danger and they know if i am not with them or haven't given them permission they are not allowed outside
PERIOD!! This is why it's frustrating they know the rules