I have definately thought about the expense of a house, and we do want to get married, but financially we paying for a house and a wedding at the same time would make money tight. The house we are looking at is a very good price, and with the interest rates right now, I feel like if we wait a year or two to get a house things may start to increase again. As far as losing money, we have done the pre-approval in both our names and the house would be in both as well. He would actually be putting down the greater amount of money, so it is more of a risk for him than me. I just feel like they are being very negative. I am very much a realist, and know what can happen, but I feel like even if we got married tomorrow there is still no guarantee and we could still have the issue of splitting assets. I don't know...I just felt hurt by their reaction - maybe I am just being too sensitive
