[RebelBelle]

First of all... BIG HUGS! I'm only 25 but I'm also the oldest grandchild in my family. I'm the technical only child of a single mom. However, my mom and I have always lived with my grandparents who adopted my 2 cousins, so my mom raised them like her own. We have one like yours too. My cousin Kenny is 24 and thinks that everyone owes him something. He dropped out of school and has wrecked 2 cars that my mom and grandparents bought him. It has been MUCH worse since my grandpa died when he (kenny) was 14. He thinks he gets all of the privledges of being the man of the house without any of the responsibilities. His idea of these privledges include being accountable to no one, bossing EVERYONE around, expecting everyone to say how high when he says jump. Yeah he has a pretty warped idea of what being a man is. Well anyway he went out and got a girl pregnant and married her. Then he decided that paying rent at an apartment took too much of his fun money away so he has now moved back in (wife and baby in tow) to my mom and grandma's for free room, board and childcare. Prime example he left his baby with my mom yesterday so that he could take his wife out for mothers day. I guess he missed the part where mothers day was a day to spend with your child not escaping your child.

I tell them all the time that they are going to have to let him fall all the way down before he'll learn to dig himself out but they aren't going to. So I quit fighting it. But he gets no free ride from me. I explained to him and Aimee that if they wanted to contribute to family events at my house they had to contribute and if they want me to watch the baby then I need to be paid either in cash or in trade. And it works! Because he knows that I don't love him enough to let him walk all over me. I can tell you this. I think your son would respect you and himself more if you make him work out his own problems.