great thread mike
I was a single mom, had worked for the provincial government.. good job for three and a half years.. married a couple years..but I was prego and the x had talked me into quitting my job..
stupid on my part.. then I had my daughter and he took one look at her and said I have a date, find your own way home..
well I did not have 45 cents for a can of baby milk..went to moms for awhile.. then moved on...I ended up going to school, and had to put my daughter in day care.. I was stubborn and went to the children's aid.. told them I wanted to go to school and could not afford a sitter.. so they I actually got to take my daughter to them every day for free day care.. I bought a 259.00 moped.. and she stood on the little running board and held on the the handle bars.. and off we went to day care, then to school, and back again.. the owner of the grocery store took over from his parents so knew me since I was 8 years old.. I would write him a cheque for food, and when I got paid for going to school I would let him cash my cheque and pay him .. had it not been for him I am not sure what I would have done..
I was at that time too stubborn to ask my mother a retired school teacher for any food what so ever..her doors were always unlocked. but I would not go and take anything..
I would never take back those 8 years on my own.. I grew up independent.. and did it on my own..It gave me strength, courage and confidence to move forward. By the time I married my hubby 29 years ago.. I had a good federal government job, a great apartment, a car and a good life.. I knew I was not getting married to have a provider.. I never forget those days..they made me who I am today..
If I had lots of money, I would love to surprise people with gifts.. I am by no means poor.. but I mean like finding some one that was like I was then and really make their life different. who knows it could happen to me one day..
anne