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Originally Posted by sexiixtc  Kathy,
I'm so sorry for your father's loss.
May he rest in peace.
I have never been good with words.. but may I just say.. your whole family is in my prayers and in my thoughts. May his soul rest in peace.
Shoot, I can't tell you it will get easier.. her I am.. almost 21 (I know, still young.. but remember.. I was 11 when my dad left).. and I cry for my dad as if I were 3..
For some people, time heals all wounds.. for others it doesn't..
For me, I don't think I can find my peace just yet.
I don't know if my dad would have been a good parent or not.. but yet... I love him.. and I think that's all that matters.. it's the love.. no matter what your parents are going through.. or what you believe is the right "type"of parent.. if they show you the love (not by money or even by telling you their feelings) but just by them being there and in one way or another showing that they really, turly care... that, to me, makes a mother or father.
I think about everyone that still is in my life constantly... whether they be in it for a minute or a lifetime... some people may think I have forgotten about them... but I haven't... I never will |
Thank you Edith...
OK, Edith
Here's the thing. I am a bit more than twice your age, so I think I can say something (very kindly meant). An 11 year old is not capable of understanding death. A 20 year old can. Take it from a 45 year old who went into a depression for a year after loosing a parent, DO NOT LET IT CONSUME YOU!
You must grieve, but make sure you insert joyful moments, and actions into your life to "celebrate" his life. Perhaps do a bit of research to get to know who your father was. I planted a Red Horse Chestnut Tree that will grow to be 40 feet tall in the corner of my yard, in memory of my father. I makes me so happy to see it bud, then produce these beautiful large red blooms in the Spring. Make something positive grow. Find something that was dear to your father's heart, and do a charity project, or just something dear to your heart. Help someone else...this is how I pulled myself out of my grief.
Life is hard. How we deal with the difficulties is what forms our character (how we learn in life). This experience will allow you to help someone else down the road. You are going thru a very emotional and sad time, for good reason. I am guessing something happened to trigger this journey? Lots of prayers will get you thru this. And you WILL get thru this and be very happy again. I am guessing it will be much sooner than you think.
lots of hugs!