I KNEW if I posted here someone would have an answer !! Thank you !   

I'm going to try the baking soda thing too - would that dry out their hair I wonder ??  I know my head itches and its driving me crazy to see them scratching so much and I can't help.....I tried a skin conditioner that I used back when Chanel used to play in the hose and even that isn't working 
thanks so much for the links !!!