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Originally Posted by cooperk  Edith, I just wanted to say that you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. You sound like a very loving person and you didn't do anything wrong. People deal with death differently, there's no right or wrong way of accepting it. Your reaction sounds perfectly normal. I bet you needed the maturity you have now to understand what your loss ment.
My father passed 4 years ago today and I still miss him terribly. Remember that no one is perfect and no one is a perfect parent. You can still love them for who they are, or were. I bet you, you have a guardian angel checking on you regularly! I know I do 
God bless you ... and allow yourself to learn and cherish the loved ones in your life. |
Kathy,
I'm so sorry for your father's loss.
May he rest in peace.
I have never been good with words.. but may I just say.. your whole family is in my prayers and in my thoughts. May his soul rest in peace.
Shoot, I can't tell you it will get easier.. her I am.. almost 21 (I know, still young.. but remember.. I was 11 when my dad left).. and I cry for my dad as if I were 3..
For some people, time heals all wounds.. for others it doesn't..
For me, I don't think I can find my peace just yet.
I don't know if my dad would have been a good parent or not.. but yet... I love him.. and I think that's all that matters.. it's the love.. no matter what your parents are going through.. or what you believe is the right "type"of parent.. if they show you the love (not by money or even by telling you their feelings) but just by them being there and in one way or another showing that they really, turly care... that, to me, makes a mother or father.
I think about everyone that still is in my life constantly... whether they be in it for a minute or a lifetime... some people may think I have forgotten about them... but I haven't... I never will