[Mom to Hot Rod]

I have a dilemma and would like some input on how to handle a situation. I am in my late 40s and over the years I have learned to "pick my battles", some things are worth getting upset over and others not.

Well, long story short. I'd been planning a baby shower for a dear friend and neighbor for over a year (she's had issues). She's also found out it is twins. Well, another neighbor is pregnant, first try. They are due within days of each other.

Dilemma:
Another neighbor has stuck her nose in and involved others so now they want to do a double shower. I had told this neighbor that I wanted to do this for my friend since she had such a hard time and I wanted to thank her for what she has done for me in the past and that I'd had a lot of stuff in motion already. She obviously did not take what I was saying into consideration.

I am so mad because my hopes of giving my friend her own shower after she has been trying for several years has gone down the drain.

I have backed out of the planning and just offered my help if I can do anything. But I am so mad that I cannot do this for my friend.

We live in a 13 home community and it is too small to have this going on, not to mention that she and I are immediate neighbors. And at the same time, I co-hosted her baby shower with this friend and I did not even get an invite to her daughters 1st b-day party - right next door!!!

How do I handle this? I am so angry and maybe a little hurt, but mostly angry about the shower.

Thanks for your input.