I agree with you all 100% !
What I hate is, if I decided to meet people outside my home.....then you are labeled as trying to hide something, when in fact you are protecting something!
I'm very private too. I let them see the mom and dad and the pups that are FOR SALE. They do not to see the ones that are not, nor do they need to see my other dogs.
I also send them pictures via email. I send ALOT
because I know I'd like alot. That way they can still see the pup. But I don't let people come see them till after thier first shots as well.
I even make my step son wash his hands before touching them.