Ya know what? This is something like what Im going through with my best friend of FOREVER recently. She is VERY self-absorbed and is treating me horribly. Ive called her out on it, but she says we are fine, nothing is wrong. Noone knows her like I do, so I KNOW something is wrong, but I won't push the issue. yesterday it all came to a head for me, for 3 months shes done or said nothing NICE or considerate to or for me. So I decided that Id rather just stay away and let her get her head straight.
She could be jealous bc of some aspect of your life that she wishes she had. Maybe she feels that now that you are married you dont need her as much, so maybe shes put out by it.
In thinking about MY friendship I thought I have tried to talk to her, Ive yelled at her a couple times when she was being rude, Ive tried to pretend I didnt care and Ive kissed her butt for months now.
So I figure, Ive got 2 choices really at this point. 1 - try to get her to talk about whats wrong again or 2 - remove myself from the situation until she comes around on her own.
Ive decided to do #2. I almost sent her an email today saying something like "the way I see it is you have 3 choices 1 - talk to me and tell me why you have been the way you are being so we can get over it and be fine again or 2 - don't talk to me, but cut out the attitude and rudeness towards me or 3 - keep going the way you are going and you are going to put a huge rift in our friendship that you may not be able to fix when you ARE over whatever it is you are pissy about.
I would think that temporary jealousy is a strong motivator and that takes time for a person to get over.
Im sorry your friend is hurting you. You should tell her what she did wrong and how you feel about it. Find out the reason for her behavior if you can, before the hurt goes too far and deep in you.
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