I understand EXACTLY how you feel. My mom went through the exact same thing. When her father died she was the only one who did anything. Her siblings never offered a dime or any time cleaning out his house, organizing his affairs or help with the funeral. My mom did it all. I knew how hard it was for her and I tried to get her to talk to her siblings but she wouldn't, she held it all in. It took her a long time to get over it, actually I don't think she ever did. It made me so angry. Sending an email or having a family meeting is not a bad idea, just make sure you don't do it while you are angry. Collect your thoughts first, I think you will have better results if you do it calmly. I don't think it is wrong at all to want to protect your mom and explain to her siblings how uncaring and inconsiderate they are being.
Good luck and I'm sorry for your loss |