Hi, I applaud this comment from lilfoot. I have been in your boat since K, my son's teacher was a NIGHTMARE, I did not know it at the time but she was on an assoc. for ADHD, she had ALL 3 of her kids on meds, 2 girls and one boy. SHe would tell the kids to look at how nice the girls behaved, she would tell the boys to be like the girls. My son would come home frustrated because he did not behave and would say things like - I wish I were a girl. When I asked him why he said this, I discovered the teacher was behind this. All of the boys in the class were getting notes, pushing the parents to get their kids "evaluated" one parent told the school you put my sons name & the word adhd together again I will sue you!! Sadly the teacher is still there. After reading books on ADHD, the war against boys, I do NOT have my son on meds, however, he does take vitamins a mineral supplement which helps him, (I will get you the name later) the other ingredients are or can be, improving his diet, have a routine, schedule, behavior therapy & yes repeat what the rules are in class daily. My son still has some issues with impulse behavior, we are addressing that, the road is not easy but it has gotten better, he is in 4th grade now. The thought of medicating sounds tempting, however I picked up a book, I think it was called, what the docs are NOT telling you about Ritalin, Aderol, etc. the long term side effects to these meds are unbelievable, from damage to the heart, growth, etc. I HAD to find another way.
Don't give up, I understand your tears, I've cried them too. Aside from school, my son is sweet, smart, good grades, humorous, creative, sometimes he seems to be a 30 something yr old in a small body, go figure.
Wishing you the best. Write me if you need to.
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Originally Posted by lilfoot  I for one really hate it that anytime that a child acts out immediately they say it is add or adhd and right away it is onto medication. As a teachers aid for the past 5 years I cannot tell you how often these enegetic kids are medicated just to appease the teachers and sadly the parents to get these kids to calm down. I for one would never accept a diagnoses of add or adhd until every possiblity is explored...a complete physicial....including hearing, eye exam and complete blood work up. Has he been checked for dyslexia??? color blindness????
And YES teachers do black list students..if a parent complains or disagrees with a teacher that child will suffer. If a student has been marked as a problem child that stigma will follow him right through. Please don't give up on this boy...he is very young. Please exhaust all resources befor you decide to accept the diagnose of adhd. There is alot of help out there for learning oportunites you just have to look....Please check online for help if the schools are not willing to help. Good luck with everything. |