Well, it sounds to me like that marriage counselling helped
. I think I"d be happy that he's not abusing you or cheating on you. (this was told to me last weekend, so I figure I'll pass it on and maybe someone will realize how good they've got it).
My mom's dh is the same way, but believe me, they've all got testosterone somewhere and it will show itself in other ways.
And if you're the one hurting his feelings b/c of your lack of sensitivity, all it takes is to think about what you're saying before it falls out of your mouth. This comes after a lot of things falling out of mine that shouldn't have
. I say, "Don't worry~ be happy".