I think you're afraid of the unknown, which is understandable! You're comfortable in your town, near family, in your home, with your current grooming customers, and the people you know...but the new place could be just as good if not even great! You could find a home you love, meet new friends for you and for your son, and find new grooming customers. Plus, if he's going to make more $, and they're giving a generous moving allowance, I feel like you have nothing to lose. Why not try it? If it doesn't work out, then you can move back. You won't know until you've tried it. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do-change is hard, and it's really difficult to leave everything you know, plus family! I think if you go, the two of you will learn a lot about each other, and you'll gain so much more life experience along the way.
DH and I live 4+ hours from family (in different directions!), and though we miss them, it's the right place for us to be right now. We've made our own lives, own our home, and have made great friends that have become our family here. Moving away from home means freedom to make your own choices and mistakes, and having to figure things out on your own. But the feeling of being able to do it by yourself is so rewarding!
I know you're married and have been living on your own with your husband for awhile..and I know how much you love them and love having them close for your son (and new baby on the way?) but it's different as a couple and I'm sure as a parent when family's not right there to help...but, if you find you do need them, they're just a few hours away. I sometimes drive 3 hours for work and back in one day-it's really not a bad drive. You'll find that your time with them will be more special since you won't see them everyday.
If you do decide to go, meeting people and making friends will be key to your happiness since you're used to being surrounded by family. Take your son to the park and join a play group, and meet other stay at home moms, or go for a walk with him and Tilly, and meet other dog owners-they may be potential clients! Also, it might be nice for you to get a part time "fun" job, maybe one or two nights a week and/or a Saturday-you could work at a children's clothing store, at a coffee shop, or as a receptionist at a salon, or something like that-that way, you'll have a little extra money to spend, and you'll be out of the house, interacting with new people all of the time.
I really think you should give it a chance-it might be the best thing you've ever done-or maybe it won't...but you won't know until you try. Talk to your husband and maybe decide to put an amount of time on it-maybe 6 months or a year, and then you can reevaluate your situation and decide whether to stay or move again.
I wish you the best! |