I lived in the same city for 29 years.. married my husband and had to quit my good paying job and move to Germany for 4 years.. my god when I think back about this. I am not sure if I would do this now at my age..
We lived all over as he was a soldier. Finally settled back down for good three years ago.. so my take was if he brought home the income I needed to quit my job, my was dangerous and I did not want him getting out and working where I did.. I went back to my job but 11 years later..
It has to be for the two of you, not for your family or his.. if he joined the army.. you may never get back home until retirement.. My husband would never go back to where he was from.. as he grew up and grew with traveling all over.. and feels he would be too bored going back home.. So when we got married it was he and I.. not parents or siblings to interfere with our relationship.. I am so glad of that.. it made us stronger.. I sometimes wonder if we would be still married had he got out of the military and we stayed right where we met.. I somehow think we would not be who we are today..
good luck with what ever you do.. |