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Originally Posted by mickie  hi guys and thanks for advice my little joe was a stray and was taken to shelter by police so know nothing at all about his past
I am married and my hubby is the only man visiting the shelter and since then joe LOVES him its so strange
yesterday he wouldnt walk past a man so i picked him up after he had snapped at me and he seemed to calm after this we stood outside the diy store and lots of people walked past and he just looked at them im wondering if its a smell he doesnt like
all other times hes so lovable to his mum and dad
does anyone think it is wrong to lift him up to pass someone he hates |
I'm no expert, but like I said, we did have an extreme case in the past. I would worry that (while picking him up saves you in the moment) it would reinforce his fears or mistrust of people. "If mom picks me up, I must have been right about not trusting that person." It would be better to actually deal with the root cause of Joe's anxiety and build up his self confidence. That being said, I would be guilty of picking him up in order to just avoid a scene! I'm glad he's lovable all the other times. That makes it sound like something that could be dealt with.