OMG........this is just so heartbreaking, for everyone involved. I am so sorry for Toby's mom; for having to fight cancer and then to lose her beloved Toby....for Toby; feeling so sad and lonely without his mom that he couldn't go on, and for you, for the sadness you feel for you friend and for also hearing of the passing of one of your first pups.
Big hugs

to all of you!
.....and RIP little Toby