Well...I have 2 friends who appear to be very gay because their actions and speech are quite effeminate. But they are very straight, both are married and have kids. They know how they appear to others, but have no inclination to change their posture so...OK, whatever. They are wonderful guys and their families are wonderful too.
I also have several men friends who are gay. Some you would never know - they appear straight, no affectations. And others have alot of feminine characteristics. I work with them in theatre productions and so I've gotten used to being around them. I'm not sure why they put on such affects, but they are great people and would and have done wonderful helpful things for me. I love them and they are dear friends.
I do not agree with their lifestyle and they know it, so they don't push it at me, and I am not going to shun them because of it. Life has lots of twists and curves and you never know what's gonna be around the bend.