I totally know that life gets complicated and gets away from ya... Things don't always turn out as planned... I have a great friend who ended up in that boat and because of that decided to not have kids because she thought it wouldn't be fair to the child she would have had... and I agree, she is childless, but really, must EVERY person contribute to the population?? Some people have none some have their share and then some... I had two and then had my tubes tied... tied at 22! Yep, that was a hard sell to my Dr. But I put it to him this way... unless he wanted to put my third through college, I was done having children. I also don't think you should have more than you can afford... Close minded??? I don't think so, just smart in my book...
If I knew then what I know now, I NEVER would have had children at all! Yep... I said it! And Every one in my family knows it! My daughter who just finished studying genes knows it too!
She agrees with me!
My father is mentally ill, my mother suffers from serious depression, my fathers illness is hereditary. I myself suffer from Bipolar disorder, adding all of this up, I should NEVER have had children!!! I however was unaware of the severity of my fathers condition nor had I been diagnosed myself. (hence the arguement for not rushing into making babies when your young and uneducated like I was!
) Had I waited a couple of years, I would not have known these things and may have chosen not to have had children. Nobody can say for sure.
My daughter says now that she won't risk it, she's pretty young now.. but I hope she keeps that ideal cause I agree that she shouldn't, I'd rather see her adopt. Just like breeding a defect in dogs... people should not continue to breed defects and illness just cause they want BABIES! My hubby and I wanted a child together SOOOOOOOO bad, but with MY family history, there is NO WAY I would risk having another child... the mental illness showed up in my son in a HUGE WAY. for that I blame myself! And it should stop! Anytime a person knowingly takes a "risk" in creating a life... its not right! Call me narrow minded, but its just not right in my book.