We just lost our second 13 year cat in January and I was glad to have had Hot Rod here to help with that lost. I understand when you say you are not ready because I don't know what would have happened if we hadn't had him here already. I still tear up when I see Moushy's pictures and think about how we would spend the day together. I will always have those memories. Just remember, you are not replacing your baby, nothing ever will but being able to share all that love is a good thing. You will know when it is right for you. And that new furbaby will benefit from all the love and attention you have for him/her.