I always allowed Tobey to sleep with me and the cats.. Izzie sleeps in a her cage until she wakes up in the night after that she sleeps with me and my boyfriend. But since she is the newbie I try to let the other ones get some sleepy time with us b4 she joins in.. This morning I had Tobey and Izzie in sleeping in between my legs, one cat on top of my boyfriend's pillow and the other cat at the foot of the bed... I need a king size bed, I don't think the queen is big enough anymore...LOL...