For my first it was my husband and my mom. For my second it was my husband, mom, and son. For my third it was my husband, mom, 2 sons, cousin (my best friend) and her son. My 4th was a csection and my husband barely made it in there on time. My 5th was my husband and 2 oldest sons while my mom was home with my 3rd son and my daughter because I had been in labor forever and it was the middle of the night. Same thing with the 6th.
I love having my children in there with me. My oldest was so sick when I was having my 6th, but he started crying almost when I told him he might not be able to be there.
When my cousin was there for my 3rd, it was sort of accidental. She thought I had already had my son, and was coming to see us. She hadnt talked to me for a long time that day, and just figured he would have been there by now. She got there about an hour before I had him, and her and her son just ended up staying in with us. Her son and my oldest were 4 at the time. They were coloring pictures at the table in the room, when her son Kaleb looked at me. He saw that I was pushing the baby out and says "HEY GAVIN (my oldest) YOUR MOMS HAVIN' A BABY!" They were SO excited!
The next day Kaleb told his grandma, my aunt, that I pushed a baby out of my butt and it was bleeding. He thought it was awesome
It completely up to you with what you feel comfortable with. I would have very hurt feelings if my daughter didnt want me in there with her, but I would try to respect that. Tell your mom they have a nice waiting room and the cafeteria has great food and that she can be the first visitor in to see the baby after you deliver because you love her so much
