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Originally Posted by BakersDozen  You make a good point; however, I have also seen many times someone is reproached for making a different decision than was recommended by some. The fact that someone makes a decision that is not what you would do does not automatically mean they haven't listened. |
Depends on what 'decision' they made. If the decision was 'I'm gonna breed my 3 pound girl anyway' or 'I'm going to breed this dog w/ LP despite what you say' or 'I don't care if I know nothing about breeding' then heck yeah you can expect the responses to be less than supportive! Again, it's not their choice to do something other than what the masses feel is right...it's the specific choice itself most of the time.
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Originally Posted by BakersDozen Moreover, if people repeatedly mention to a group or person that they are posting in a manner that is "know it all" or being tyrannical (that's not the exact word I want to use but can't think of another  ) then it's certainly worth considering changing the tone of one's posts. Whatever the intention, if that many people take exception to it, one should seriously take note. I always appreciate it when my friends let me know I'm being a *****....how would I know to change otherwise? |
You are absolutely right...definately worth taking a step back and reconsidering the way you're coming accross. Often times though that happens and is nothing more than someone lashing out because they didn't get the answers and support they wanted. It's just very frustrating sometimes when people get sidetracked and the tone of others and who is being 'nice' becomes more of a focus than the situation at hand and the well being of the dogs. Then all of a sudden, someone who came on talking about breeding their 6 month old, 3 lb dog is getting encouragement and kudos all as a result of 'teaching a lesson' to those who were...God forbid...shocked at the situation and blunt w/ their response.
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Originally Posted by BakersDozen Please know that I am not directing this at you personally....I used the word "you" for ease, to mean "you" in a general sense. |
Understood.
Generally I get what you mean though. I think in the future, if it seems to me that all good advice is being ignored, I will just wish the person luck and move on.