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Originally Posted by BamaFan121s  ...I've never seen people turn their backs or deny help and information to those researching breeding on this board if they LISTEN and make the process a two way street. Quite the opposite, actually. I have however, seen the members who do help and offer advice and who do genuinely care for the well beeing of these dogs and who have dedicated so much to this breed upset and frustrated by people who come here for advice, ignore it and act in a manner that can be interpreted as having anything BUT the best interest of the dogs first.
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You make a good point; however, I have also seen many times someone is reproached for making a different decision than was recommended by some. The fact that someone makes a decision that is not what you would do does not automatically mean they haven't listened. It could very well mean that they have considered your opinion, along with others (possibly different than yours), and have made their own decision.
Moreover, if people repeatedly mention to a group or person that they are posting in a manner that is "know it all" or being tyrannical (that's not the exact word I want to use but can't think of another
) then it's certainly worth considering changing the tone of one's posts. Whatever the intention, if that many people take exception to it, one should seriously take note. I always appreciate it when my friends let me know I'm being a *****....how would I know to change otherwise?
Please know that I am not directing this at you personally....I used the word "you" for ease, to mean "you" in a general sense.
All that being said, I do understand how it can be so frustrating for breeders to continually answer the same questions over and over and not see everyone reach the same conclusions. Maybe just post a link to a previous thread? I for one do not take offense at what any breeder says--I have gleaned too much real knowledge from them. Although I do see many times where it could be stated in a kinder way, with room for people to make their own decisions, I feel that the value of the knowledge surpasses any tone of the message.