hahahaha well one of my boys would LOVE to sleep on my pillow with me, but you know what I do is take a pillow and shove it b/t the headboard and the mattress, then I move my pillow down about 6 inches so there is room for my fletch to lay b/t the 2 pillows. Hes happy to do that, he rests his head on MY pillow but not his whole body! It works for us!