I can't give you any advice, cause mine is only 5.5 months old...
But I noticed that you live in Orlando, so I wanted to say hi!!

Are you going to the yorkie meetup this Saturday in Sanford?
http://yorkie.meetup.com/37/
Also, are you going to be at the YT meetup on March 8th?
Good Luck with your little girl, I'm sure she will calm down a little bit as she gets older!