[LuvMySissy]

Sounds all too familiar to me. Here's the short version; my parents divorced when I was 12 (I am the oldest of 5). My dad kept an apartment, but basically moved in with our neighbor (who was also married at the time, but her husband was an over-the-road truck driver and gone lots). She divorced about 6 months later and she and her 3 young children moved into a mobile home with my dad. They officially got married 2 years later. We were not invited to the wedding. My dad didn't pay a dime of child support for 5 years till my mom was able to get his wages garnished. Within a couple months of my dad being gone, we were on welfare, foodstamps and medicaid as he also refused to pay any of our major medical expenses. My stepmother hated having anything to do with us. We were lucky if our dad called us a few times a year (they lived 2 miles away) and only saw us once or twice. Every time we were around my stepmother, one of us was always getting yelled at about something with her children. Then, later on she would call us and continue to tell us nasty things and how we weren't welcome, we were ungrateful, etc. When we would tell our dad what she said we were accused of lying because she "loved us and would never do anything like that". So, she basically succeeded in keeping us apart for many years.

I did eventually come to peace with them after my children were born - strictly for the sake of my children knowing their grandfather, but I was always the one working on the relationship. I always did the calling, always did the visitng. It ended up biting me in the a$$ (in a very major, tragic way)and we no longer have any contact.

Unfortunately, many women rule the roost and are very threatened by a man's children and the dad's don't have the balls to stand up for their children. He is the loser in the end. As daughters we will always want our daddy's in our life, but sometimes it just isn't worth the heartache.

I hope whatever you want works out for you. It is a very tough thing to do through.