hi,
I hope i can just vent here... my parents divorced when I was 19. I have 2 younger brothers, they were 17 and 14. Its been 12 years since the divorce.
My mom remarried to a man that me and my brothers ADORE. He is sooo good and accepting of us and my mom. We have NO problems with him whatsoever.
My dad married a woman NONE of us like. My middle brother does not speak to my father anymore. He has not spoken to him for about 8 years now. My other brother has moved far away so he does not have the dislike for his wife that us 2 other kids do because he does not know her, however he is not fond of her at all. And I, the target of her behavior bc I was daddys little girl, has taken a verbal beating from her for 12 years. I am the target of her dirty looks, her snide comments, her braggings of stupid things shes gotten to just show off bc my dad is more into her than me now. All ridiculous for a grown woman.
I finally had it last june when I called my dad and she answered and told me that I should buy him a father's day gift and then gave me examples of things to buy (and all of them were for stuff she'd get use out of too) and when I told her money was tight Im going back to school, she told me that I had a year to save up for it and thats not an excuse, hes my father. I was in TEARS almost, biting my tounge to not lash out. Then she told me to still come over the following day (I was calling my dad to confirm plans for that visit) but i couldn't bring my dogs (another one of HER rules bc my dad used to LOVE animals so much). So I called my dad the next day and asked him to come up and told him I wouldn't be going to his house anymore or be around her anymore. What she did was the last straw and that Ive taken it long enough. Im a grown woman, not a kid and can make my own decisions about who I care to spend time with.
He said he was horrified with her and understood my position, so we made plans once a month to go out to eat dinner together, just him & I. GREAT!
Well he sends me an email today telling me I need to get over it, dinner is not working for hm and that Im using them as a target bc of all the stuff that I have been through in the last 2 years and I need someone to aim my anger at. Thats soooo not true!!! He told me he could not think of anything she said to me that should have upset me. So he basically forgot everything we talked about and has gone back to letting her win by keeping him away from his kids.
I HATE THIS WOMAN!!! HATE HER! I don't hate ANYONE and I can't even find the words to describe how much I despise her.
But I am soooo sad and on the verge of tears bc I didnt want to lose my dad. My mom moved 2500 miles away, my other brother did too and my other brother lives about 1000 miles away. I don't see any of them very often. My dad is sooo close and we were always soooo close and she stole that and hes blaming me. He just won't see it at all.
I don't know what to do... my heart is breaking!!