My husband really wanted a female. When we looked at ours, the people had both parents and our little girl and her little brother. The little brother was just going "crazy", chasing the cat and biting its tail, etc. He was so cute. But the couple said if I wanted a "lap" dog, get the girl. I don't know. She is not always a lap dog. More so in the last year (she is six now). I sometimes wish we would have taken both. He was so cute!