[IluvLucy]

I raised a son who was diagnosed ADHD and MMH. I went thru hell with diets, additives and preservatives - well, you know the drill.

My side of the family was very supportive, my ex's wasn't. He thought I was exagerrating and refused to give him his meds when he visited, which meant I had to deal with the fallout everytime he came home.

These are YOUR children. She has already raised hers. I understand that your husband has talked to her and that you have, too.

I found that sometimes you have to hurt feelings in order to do what's right for your children. I did, and feel no remorse at all for it.

If you don't want to answer the phone - don't. If she comes over and you don't want to answer the door - don't. Keep your doors locked and if she causes a scene - tell her you're calling your husband, and DO it. Then he'll have to deal with that part of it - LET HIM.

If she whines to everyone else in the family - let her. You can't change that, but YOU will have charge over your children and that's what counts.

I guess what I'm trying to say is do what you have to do and let the chips fall where they may. You're trying to do the right thing and I believe you will succeed.


Good luck.