Reminds me of the time my cat-person friend came over. Picked up Yoda, and Yoda SQUIRMED out of his hands and fell! About 3-4 feet too. Needless to say, he's not allowed to pick up Yoda any more, neither are most people. We can count on one hand who is allowed to pick him up! Their bones are very, very small and fragile! What your grandsons can do is sit on the floor, and let Toto be on the couch. They can sort of cradle him when Toto is on the couch, and it's sort of similar to holding him, without all the dangers.