Hi, Kathy.
My heart ached as I read your post. I am so sorry that you are in this position.
I would suggest trying a different trainer, one that uses positive reinforcement.
I think you really need to impress upon your DIL just how much you need Molly, since your husband passed away. I am so sorry for your loss.
I wouldn't allow her to take over Mollys training because frankly, her taking away Mollys food until the next meal is just downright cruel and inhumane. It's also dangerous for a Yorkie to go without food. And it only teaches Molly that your DIL is mean.
Is it possible for you to keep Molly with you, in a separate area of your son & DIL's home? Particularly when there are workmen etc. in the home?
Please, please don't even consider putting Molly down.
Believe me, I understand that Molly fills that huge hole in your heart. I have two Yorkies and I am in bad health, and they keep me going.
I feel pity for your DIL. She doesn't seem to realize that there will come a day, she may be in your shoes and wish she had been more compassionate.
I would tell her that you love her, apppreciate that you live in her home and ask her to be more patient as you train Molly.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
Sheila |