Ooh, tricky situation- My tips...
I would recommend getting your daughter to feed Poppy. I had three dogs growing up and because i was the one 'providing' their food- the pecking order was established. With me appearing to control when/ where/ what they ate, they respected me. Also if Poppy recieves her treats/toys/kisses from your wife/daughter she will associate them with nice things!
Also, the person Poppy is closest to should ignore her, so to recieve affection she must go to people she is less sure of.
And try to make sure your wife and daughter don't transmit their nerves or fear to Poppy. Every time I am scared of an animal, I must remind myself not to send my fear down the lead.
She will settle eventually especially with lots of love!
Good Luck, From Lizzi & Pippi
