I have been trying to figure out how to broach this post. I was in a similiar situation as you. I think that rushing a man into marriage is a huge mistake. I agree with Baby Fidgette completely. Being together for a year is not really that long. I was with my now husband for a year and a half when we decided to move in together. I had no intention of ever living with a man before marriage, but there were circumstances that came up. I moved over 400 miles to be near him and I made it very clear that it was a sacrifice on my part and that I would not wait around forever.
We always seemed to be on the same page about our relationship and I told him that I would never pressure him, that I would just leave when I felt I had waited too long. I started getting a little antsy about 1 year into living together. I couldn't understand why he was waiting. In my head, I gave it until the following September. If he didn't propose, I was going to be moving back to So cal. He ended up proposing in July. This has been over a year ago and we are now married.
Women tend to want to rush things. I know that I am stubborn and I would have left. Was that the right choice? Probably not. I love my husband dearly and I think he always wanted to marry me. However, I think he wanted to acheive certain things before we got married. I didn't care about those things at the time, but I respect that he waited until he was completely ready.
Now that I am married, I realize that my love and commitment to him is no different then what it was before. We always said that we would get married when we were ready for babies and that is what we did. I feel that waiting really helps you to be sure that this is what each of you wants.
Please do not pressure him. Open up the lines of communication with him and see what he truly thinks of marriage and commitment. He may want to marry you, but he is obviously not ready now. Only you can know if you are the type of person that will wait for him. And only you know if he is worth waiting for. I know my hubby was.
