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Originally Posted by Ladylavender  Since you are at those ages, I agree with you. You have grown into the person you will fundamentally always be. You know enough about yourself to know what you want. He should also pretty much know what he wants. both your maturity levels should be up there so that the life changes to be experienced at this point, can be mutually shared, with each other understanding the other's reactions with that maturity.
So I think this boils down to 3 issues:
1. either he has a real fear factor and cannot conceptualize himself in marriage (at least at this point)
2. he cannot see himself married to you, or
3. he cannot see himself married to anyone at this stage of his life, not having anything to do with you or fear of marriage.
The fact that he will not go to pre-marital counseling at this point in your relationship means he really is not anywhere near marriage thinking.
So maybe the real question is are you willing to wait until he is ready which means you may need to re-assess your need for marriage.
I think that timing is everything. You both are not in the same place yet, in reference to this issue. |
(SIGH) I know...I know...I'm really emotional about it cause it's what I want but definitely know that if it's not what he's wanting then a marriage it will not make...ugh