[chloeTG]

I agree things will change, careers, decision making..life all together...but I'm not sure if that should keep us from experiencing those changes together, marriage isn't having everything set and unchanging, no matter how long one waits to get married or how mature you become...life will always change (for better or worse)...for the record he's 30 and I'm 29.

I may not be in my late 30's or 40's but I am old enough to know I'd like a family and that there really is something to this whole marriage thing.. I see that when I walk into my parent's home and find them dancing in the kitchen.

I am hearing what he is saying and what he needs and have offered to start helping him to answer some of the questions that are bothering him. Hence, my support of finding a pre-marital counselor..he made the comment to me that sometimes he felt that he may be going over board with his fear and that it might help him ease some of them. I promise I've taken into consideration the entire subject matter and how he feels.

I'd would never be so niave as to take something like marriage so lightly that I wouldn't think about the changes one goes through in the course of a relationship and take the time to discover what it's like after the honey moon phase.

So, maybe I'm asking the wrong question here...is it 5 years, 10 years, 20 years...when does one consider marriage? When is one mature enough and settled enough to decide they can become someone's partner in life?