I think it depends on how old you are. If you are in your early 20's then I think he is right. I don't think you are ready to get married, especially if he is not! I would listen to what he has to say, because he is trying to tell you a lot, and you may not be hearing it.
I understand where you are coming from, because you want to begin to make life with some one and not waste your time on a "no where" relationship. You want to mutually build together a home, a family, a savings, buy furniture, etc.
But he has a point. He may feel you both need to grow up more, figure out what each of you wants out of life before you are tied down to each other. All people change throughout the course of a relationship. It's inevitable. Sometime those changes causes a rift in the "once so perfect" relationship and you no longer have things in common and are no longer making decisions for the betterment of the relationship. Life throws new opportunities at you career wise, character building wise and/or challenges. It's these things that make a person change. He may want to see where he is at as a person a few years from now, to see if he still wants the same things. He may or he may not. You should do the same. It might make your relationship stronger or it might weaken it and it's time to move on.
No one is right or wrong. Everyone is exactly where they are at at the moment. He just isn't where you are at. You need to really understand this. Accept it and be stronger and let the marriage idea go for a while and see where the relationship takes you. |