I have a sister who hates holidays & birthdays & weddings and anything in life that means family unity and joy....but she's been like that all of her life. Another sister (the baby) doesn't spend alot of time on decorating or cards or the rituals of the holidays but always wants the biggest present. The other one decorates and cooks to the hilt but will work on the holidays to make the extra $$ instead of spending "the day" with the family, or if she's there she's sleeping because she worked all night. That leaves me, the oldest, the one who busted her a** for years to keep the family traditions going for them after dad died and mom didn't care anymore. It has taken me a long time to realize that we get out of the holidays what we put into them. I celebrate for my family now, and everyone else is welcome to join us or not.
We were all raised in the same home, had the same parents, ate the same meals, had the same pets & went to the same schools. We are all different. |