[Baby Blessing]

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

My Mom died when she was 44 and I was 21 (she got sick when she was 42 and I was 19), I'm now 39. So, I suppose it would be her. But, it wouldn't be to say how much I loved and missed her. It would be more to gain some perspective as to why she was so emotionally abusive toward my sister and me - I just want to understand it, somehow....as it has affected my life in many devastating ways.

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) that's many years ago, I pray that God will help you to let loose of the unpleasant memories and go forward in life changing all the devastating times you have been through.

I have read each and all of the posts and there is one person that came to my mind but is not easy to tell of what happened to her, she passed away many years ago, they said her death was of natural causes.

I learned later that an autopsy was never performed. She was our next door neighbor and a wonderful friend, she was maybe ten years older than myself. She never spoke of being in an abusive relationship with her husband and we was never aware of this up until just about three months prior to her death. She had left him and then returned just a couple weeks before she passed away. They were married many years (I think around 33 years).

It was on a saturday morning at around 7:00 that her husband came to our door to tell me she was dead, I immediately ran over and went to her bedside, so many details I won't go into but why the authorities didn't dig deeper into her death was always beyond my understanding. It tears my heart thinking of it and remembering that dreadful morning. So many things of what he said and did left me believing that her husband was responsable for her death.

I am so thankful today that law enforcement is more apt to not sweep everything into done files and go forth in search for truth in many of these cases that are coming about.

I would say to my friend Betty, "don't keep things within yourself like you have for all these years, I am your friend and let me be here to give a ear to all that you are going through even though I may be silent with no answers, I am here for you to have someone you can open up to and maybe by doing so will enable you to give yourself answers to the dilema you are in."

I am sorry that my wording and sentence structure isn't too good in this post
but this was a very difficult post.

It wasn't too long after Betty passed away that we moved, I couldn't stand to live there any longer.

Betty was a christian, I recall back to that morning in her bedroom as I looked to the window I could almost see her soul descending towards the heavens, I know she is with God.

She had placed a pine tree between our front drive way of which she had brought back from the Colorado mountains while they were on vacation one year, it was so tiny, and I couldn't move and leave it there as we both pampered it regularly Before we moved I asked the cemetery if they had a place for her little tree, they said most definately and placed it next to the road above her grave, that tree today stands 50 feet tall.

I have never talked openly about this but your question brought back the memories of my friend Betty. I don't know why I have come forth and posted this but maybe there is another Betty or someone out there that needed to read this and please know there is always someone that like myself may not be able to offer advice but have an ear to hear and sometimes that is all people need.

Sincerely, Patti