[RandomHeart]

Originally Posted by RoxyJosMom

I agree with Villette. You have to deal with every possible emotion there is. After losing my husband very unexpectedly 2 yrs ago the 14th of this month, I still dream about him. And the dreams are far more vivid than normal dreams. But, unlike Villette, when I wake up, I feel better. The dreams comfort me. We can't control our subconscience, but it controls our dreams. We, in turn, control how the dreams affect us. I look forward to those dreams. Maybe that's why I sleep better now than I used to. I hope, in time, you will be able to understand your emotions, and not let them upset you. It's a circle - you have a dream, you worry about it, it's on your mind, you go to sleep and your subconscience takes over and you dream about it, you wake up and worry about why you dreamed about it - back to the beginning of the cycle. You are very normal. You will be fine if you don't dwell on the dreams.

I do not know who Villette is but I understand what she is saying, and RoxyJosMom, I lost my husband and my infant daughter in a car accident in July, I have been having dreams as if they were here and I should be meeting them.
The doctor says it could be my subconscious b/c it was so sudden and also could be the medication he prescribed so I could just sleep.
About G-d's plan? I do not know why a 25 year old man and a 6 month old child needed to die that way. I am too young to fit into a widows group ...
I am lost without them. My folks live an hour from me, and they are extremely supportive ... we would have celebrated our 3rd anniversary the end of this month ...
Sorry if I rambled on.
My heart aches out to all those who are widows or widowers ...such a sad time of the year now